When Two Girls Fights Over a Guy (Competing For A Spot).

"When Two Girls Fights Over a Guy"
(Competing For a Spot).

Our girls have been raised in a society where having a guy equates to having honour, shelter, food, clothing and respectability. So most girls tends to fight other girls over their guys because they fear to lose their source of income, they fear to stay hungry, naked, ashamed, and being bullied by friends thereby failing to understanding that they can succeed on their own. They feel that their inherent value and pride is premised on being found desirable by a guy.

I find it irksome when the female folks who have the potential and God's given ability to accomplish whatever they want in life believes their accomplishments in life is just by getting a man to provide all the things they need and this dependency makes them vulnerable to abuse from their benefactor (man)

Guys in a position like this can often get carried away with the kind of power that comes with being the object of desire from two girls. That kind of attention from two girls can be so intoxicating that he simply finds it harder and harder to let go of it.

He knows that if he were to make a decision on which girl to choose finally in the end, he would essentially lose one of the girls or both. If he loses girl 'A' based on his decision, he would lose the attention that he has gotten so used to receiving from that girl. A number of guys, out of fear of losing this attention will typically just stay in indecision until their hand is either seriously forced or someone other than the two girls that he has been indecisive about comes along to wrest their attention.

So many girls are 6feet down now because of unnecessary struggle and competition over a guy who in himself unsure of what he really wants. If the guy really loves you he wouldn't have been open to another girl's advances. You may fight and still lose him. It's OK to fight for your guy but don't fight over him. If you must fight,  fight on your knees.

Three things are involved when girls fight over a guy.  1. They don't want to feel like a loser which is an indication of low self awareness. 2. They want to prove to the guy they love him... Fighting over a guy is not a proof of love but a proof of dependency on him.  3. They want to be preferred by the guy by all means which is an indication of lack of self love and appreciation. The guy does not deserve you if he doesn't prefer you to the other girls but most girls believe that there's a "shortage of man", because they also believe man represent roof over their head,  clothes in their body,  human hair on their head, food in their belly... therefore, trying to hold on tight to the one worthless big headed guy they got instead of letting him go and move on to the next one.

Don't drink bitter pill over it, love is not a struggle. Until you stop following the culture of looking up to man for your survival violence against your rival over a guy will remain a vicious cycle.

Realign your desires and keep your heart in shape.

Edgar T. A